What were we thinking!

Information, resources and reassurance for new parents navigating the highs and lows of life with a baby

The birth of a first baby is one of the biggest life transitions an adult will experience. Major life changes are always accompanied by mixed feelings and most parents feel under-equipped for the tasks of infant care and managing a household with a baby.

This website contains information about common experiences in the early months of parenthood and some effective ways of thinking about and managing them.

All information on this website is drawn from up-to-date research and the experiences of many parents of new babies. We hope that you find the site helpful as you learn to live with your first baby.

Discover our free app!

phone app for new parents


www.whatwerewethinking.org.au content was developed with funding from the Australian Government and the Jack Brockhoff Foundation. The authors have sole responsibility for the content of the website.

The site content is provided for your information; if you have comments you are welcome to submit them to:

This site is not a substitute for advice from your family doctor or another health professional.

If you feel sad, worried, or irritable most of the time, then it is important to talk to your family doctor.

The above text last updated 14 May 2020.


WWWT Blog »

The Best Part!

What I have learnt is that this ‘fog’ they talk about doesn’t go in its entirety. Well not at 3 months anyway. I’m still tired, some days worse than others. I still don’t find waking up at 3am any better. Breastfeeding is easier, faster for sure. But it still takes time and energy...

read more »

When your baby swaps "mamma" for "dadda, dadda!"

Sharing the load is a job for both 'mamma' and 'dadda' with a baby ... especially when another newborn enters the picture.

read more »

Sometimes coping is doing just fine

Having a baby is a time of significant change in our lives. As Fiona Darling reminds us, some days  'coping'  is all you can do - and that's perfectly good enough.

read more »


Copyright ©2021 Monash University. All rights reserved.
Disclaimer | Privacy Policy | Advertising Policy | Conflict of Interest Statement