What were we thinking!

Information, resources and reassurance for new parents navigating the highs and lows of life with a baby

The birth of a first baby is one of the biggest life transitions an adult will experience. Major life changes are always accompanied by mixed feelings and most parents feel under-equipped for the tasks of infant care and managing a household with a baby.

This website contains information about common experiences in the early months of parenthood and some effective ways of thinking about and managing them.

All information on this website is drawn from up-to-date research and the experiences of many parents of new babies. We hope that you find the site helpful as you learn to live with your first baby.

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www.whatwerewethinking.org.au content was developed with funding from the Australian Government and the Jack Brockhoff Foundation. The authors have sole responsibility for the content of the website.

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This site is not a substitute for advice from your family doctor or another health professional.

If you feel sad, worried, or irritable most of the time, then it is important to talk to your family doctor.

The above text last updated 14 May 2020.



Sleeping at Night

Iris is 11 weeks today and as she grows, and jumps up a size in her clothes, I can't help but feel a little sad ... she's growing too fast! But it's these times that I realise how lucky I am to have a year off from work so that I can focus on this beautiful little person in our lives...

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Time for me

Ari is now 3 months old and we are all doing well. I love watching my partner Dimitri play with Ari, the squeals of laughter from the two of them touches my heart. I use their play time together to catch up on some “me time” by either sitting with my feet up and my favourite book or just having a cup of tea. I love this time to myself and I feel that it regenerates my energy levels.

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Zac, me, childcare and sickness!

After having Zac in childcare for 4 months now, I am beginning to wonder if it's all worth it! The amount of sickness we have had in this four months feels like what some people would have in a life time...

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