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A simple way new mums can reduce their anxiety

A simple way new mums can reduce their anxiety

Parenting expert Dr Heather Rowe examines how fear-based health messages targeting those with a new baby can cause unnecessary anxiety in new mums.

Born in the USA

Born in the USA

My partner and I are both from Melbourne, but we moved to New York a few years ago for work. There are lots of crazy things about the American health system, which has affected our birth experience in several ways.

Don't come knocking if you're coughing

Don't come knocking if you're coughing

We love to have family and friends come and stay with us, although I cannot believe how many people have arrived on our doorstep unwell. Firstly, this stresses me, worrying about Abigail, what will she catch and secondly, I cannot afford to get sick, especially when I'm feeding 6-8 feeds a day, cleaning the house and cooking dinner.

I don't have to be a supermum

I don't have to be a supermum

Becoming a parent has confirmed for us that feeling daunted and overwhelmed had rhyme and reason. Early in the piece there were days and weeks where I felt in control, organised and managing this new little wriggly worm reasonably well.

Reflections on preparation and the birth

Reflections on preparation and the birth

A fear that I had leading up to Abigail's arrival and even prior to coming off the pill was in fact the birth. Nothing could prepare me enough for this event.

Settling

Settling

Settling a baby can be hard. We learnt this early on. It seemed that some days certain techniques would work and then the next day they wouldn’t. Were we to persist with the same techniques or try new ones? I was quite unsure.

Things I cannot believe

Things I cannot believe

L is 4 weeks old today.

Unsettled baby

Unsettled baby

The day of L's 4-week check-up, a few things suddenly came into focus for me. I had been feeling quite smug -- if still dazed from lack of sleep -- but L was feeding like a champion and putting on weight, and was generally an easy baby.

Why does my baby cry?

Why does my baby cry?

New mum Poppy wants to know ... how do you know a 'cry' from a real cry?

Wrapping as a form of baby settling

Wrapping as a form of baby settling

They taught you how to 'wrap' your baby in hospital, but what is all the fuss really about?