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Being a mum & still being me

Being a mum & still being me

You say hello to a new future when you become a mum, but as Poppy learns, that doesn't mean saying goodbye entirely to  the 'you' of the past ...

Convenience or addiction?

Convenience or addiction?

I really need a sign that says "Do not leave me alone on my phone/internet, especially when I'm sleep deprived" ... Online shopping is addictive.

I am so tired

I am so tired

After much crying from both Sam and myself there is finally an improvement in his sleep now he is 11 weeks old. From birth Sam would only go to sleep when I fed or cuddled him and when I put him in his cot asleep he woke after 20 minutes.

I can't get sick

I can't get sick

I’ve had a sore throat and fever for the past couple of days, Ari is also unwell as he has been unsettled and waking every two hours over night wanting to be cuddled all the time.

Multitasking at its best

Multitasking at its best

Abigail is like clockwork, every time I put her in the car she poops. Not only does she poo, they're explosive and I spend time disinfecting and cleaning her car seat. When I went into my work to introduce little miss Abigail, I had to change her three times before we even entered the building.

One step forward, two steps back

One step forward, two steps back

I never thought sleep would rule my life so much. Sam is now 12 weeks old and is back to waking up twice overnight again.

Sharing the load

Sharing the load

We have learnt to juggle our time to help each other and manage Penelope. Having another pair of hands to quickly hang out the washing together each day is a godsend. We make the bed together each morning, and Ben gobbles his breakfast talking sweet nothings and baby goo-gah with Penelope while I throw myself under the shower.

The fog lifts? Or does it?

The fog lifts? Or does it?

So, I was given the advice time and time again, prior to Penelope’s birth and in the early weeks, ‘don’t worry it’s like a fog lifts when you hit the 12 week mark’. So what did this exactly mean? Would I get my life back? Would my child be a terror and then suddenly an angel? Would I have no sleep for the first 3 months? 

Well planned time for me

Well planned time for me

Breastfeeding, carrying and pushing a baby can take its toll on your body, especially muscles tightening and the need to stretch, with little time out.

Wrapping as a form of baby settling

Wrapping as a form of baby settling

They taught you how to 'wrap' your baby in hospital, but what is all the fuss really about?