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Parent stories and expert advice / Amy

Amy

Amy, and her partner Rob, have a great 'support network' as they learn to look after their beautiful baby girl Abigail, including family (on both sides) and Amy's helpful mothers group.

Blogposts by Amy

"Feeling like I need to get some of me back..."

I had always planned to go back to work after the first year, however, I am starting to have strong thoughts/feelings about going back to work early and part-time. I think these thoughts started because I feel like I need to get some of me back, the pre-Abigail me. 

A positive change

A positive change

It’s hard to believe six weeks have already passed since our precious Abigail arrived. Not to mention I've now been off work for over two months and Robert's back at work after three weeks leave.

Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding

After Abigail was born a midwife told me that I have a huge amount of milk which was positive. Abigail loves to try and suck as much milk as she can which leaves her coughing or gulping a lot of air.

Convenience or addiction?

Convenience or addiction?

I really need a sign that says "Do not leave me alone on my phone/internet, especially when I'm sleep deprived" ... Online shopping is addictive.

Don't come knocking if you're coughing

Don't come knocking if you're coughing

We love to have family and friends come and stay with us, although I cannot believe how many people have arrived on our doorstep unwell. Firstly, this stresses me, worrying about Abigail, what will she catch and secondly, I cannot afford to get sick, especially when I'm feeding 6-8 feeds a day, cleaning the house and cooking dinner.

Don't cry over spilt milk

Don't cry over spilt milk

I never understood the expression "don't cry over spilt milk" until now. I  accidentally left expressed frozen milk bars on the bench and they defrosted. I was furious with myself and the fact I couldn't re-freeze breast milk. I found myself seeking comfort through google.

Injections

Injections

So far I've had Abigail's 2 and 4 month injections. I was a nervous wreck; I felt sick driving to the doctor’s clinic, even while waiting in the waiting room I somehow managed to spill my coffee down my leg and all over one of my shoes and white sock that immediately turned latte.

Multitasking at its best

Multitasking at its best

Abigail is like clockwork, every time I put her in the car she poops. Not only does she poo, they're explosive and I spend time disinfecting and cleaning her car seat. When I went into my work to introduce little miss Abigail, I had to change her three times before we even entered the building.

My Support Network

My Support Network

Gratitude is everything, and I am truly grateful to have such a wonderful support network around me. These people have helped me build confidence and even rebuild confidence within me. 

My wonderful supports

My wonderful supports

Bless my support system, Rob my husband, both families including extended, friends that I met while working out in Mornington, as well as friends who have children and friends who don't. I want to especially thank my sister Lisa who had her first child 20 weeks before Abigail arrived.

New to the area

New to the area

Yesterday was the 4th and final week of our New parents group, there are 12 mothers, 5 baby girls and 7 baby boys. I'm relatively new to the area so this is a great opportunity for me to meet new mums.

On a roll

On a roll

Every day we aim for tummy time. Abigail has managed to flip from front to back and back to front, although she doesn't seem to want to explore rolling. Perhaps she thinks she's mastered it ...

Reflections on preparation and the birth

Reflections on preparation and the birth

A fear that I had leading up to Abigail's arrival and even prior to coming off the pill was in fact the birth. Nothing could prepare me enough for this event.

Well planned time for me

Well planned time for me

Breastfeeding, carrying and pushing a baby can take its toll on your body, especially muscles tightening and the need to stretch, with little time out.

When will my skin clear?

When will my skin clear?

My skin is the worst it has ever been. I've tried everything from QV skin cream, benzac and now antibiotics to destroy the bacteria underneath the skin.